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Discussion in 'Security Alarms' started by JoeRaisin, Dec 10, 2006.

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  1. JoeRaisin

    JoeRaisin Guest

    About four years ago my boys became close friends with a kid they met at
    their tea kwon do school. They all enjoyed snowboarding (winter) and
    skateboarding (summer). he even became a black belt at the same time as
    my younger boy (15yo).

    We have a very large driveway and he has some nice hills behind his
    house so it quickley became the norm for them to spend most of the
    summer at our house and most of the winter at his.

    His parents are very nice folks and we visited their house along with
    our kids many time and vice-versa.

    I noticed they had no fire protection in their very old house. I had
    commented to Doug many times that I could easily throw together a simple
    fire system from stuff I had salvaged during takeovers and tear downs
    but we would have to buy a few wireless smokes (four would have done it).

    We both agreed it would be a good idea and I even started throwing some
    stuf in a box but I never got around to doing it. I had everything
    together and could have easily gotten a few smokes from our service
    department at reduced cost - but agan, I never could seem to find the time.

    Saturday morning at around 4 am the house burned to the ground and my 18
    year old son was the only one who didn't get out.

    The other two boys in the home at the time said that when they woke up
    they couldn't get through the house to the room my son had gone to sleep
    in. It wouldn't have mattered as the investigator (who at this time is
    leaning towards electrical in the kitchen ceiling) believes (based on
    the descriptions from the those two) that since my son had his bedroom
    door open he was most likely already gone (from the smoke) by the time
    the other two woke up at the other end of the house.

    Had I not screwed around and done what I knew needed doing they would
    have at least had a chance of waking up before it was too late and my
    son would still be teaching tae kwon do and going to school.

    I wouldn't be sitting here waiting until Monday so they can take his
    body down state to be identified (he was the only other one who could
    have been in the house). We don't know when we will be getting him back.

    If you have any family or friends who are not adequately or even
    rudimentarily protected don't wait. Do it today.

    Don't let a loved one die because you procrastinate. Everyone is aying
    it was an accident and that these things happen. I know better. He is
    dead because I saw something that needed to be done and I simply didn't
    do it. It is a father's duty to protect his children.
  2. Tommy

    Tommy Guest

    My sincerest condolences on your loss, joe. You will be in our prayers.
  3. secure15

    secure15 Guest

    My family's heart goes out to you! Having a teenager away at College, I
    think about it daily. So sorry for the loss of your son.... I know it
    sounds idiotic, but don't blame yourself. It's not up to us to
    determine the time or the way in which we depart. Rest assured he is
    indeed in a much better place. God Bless you all in this time of sorrow.
    Mike S.
  4. Sean

    Sean Guest

    Sorry Joe, my sympathies to you. It is never easy to lose a someone
    especially your child.
  5. Joe,

    You and your family are in our prayers. Please don't be too hard on yourself. It will only lead you into depression and right now
    your family needs you to be strong.
  6. Frank Olson

    Frank Olson Guest

    You can't and shouldn't blame yourself. It wasn't your responsibility
    to install smoke detectors in the house in the first place. I do agree
    that every parent has the responsibility to ensure their children's
    safety but there are times when they will be away from that protection
    and their only "shield" will be what you've taught them to watch out
    for. You can't go around blaming yourself for what happened even though
    I know you will. All of us can relate to what you've posted here in
    some small way (and I don't wish to appear to diminish what you're going
    through). We all know of customers that have opted NOT to include smoke
    alarms or a carbon monoxide detector in their alarm installations. You
    have to realize that it's *their* decision and that you aren't obligated
    to include it "free" out of "moral conscience" or feelings of guilt that
    might be engendered when we read of such a tragic accident as what
    befell your son (and family). Joe. It *is* an accident. You might
    think it could have been avoided, but you really don't know that for
    sure. For what it's worth, you could have supplied them with any number
    of wireless smoke alarms but what if the homeowner never changed the
    batteries (or ignored the low battery signal)? Please don't blame
    yourself. Please forgive yourself. Take care and God Bless! My
    prayers are with you and your family.

    FIRETEK Guest

    The words people have used in response to your message are every bit as
    important as what you've said here. We are responsible for our children for
    as long as they live with us. My wife and I have raised our two sons with
    but one thought in mind. At some point they will find their own path and
    follow it where-ever it may lead. You can't always hold their hands and you
    have to hope that messages like this will open their eyes to the hazards
    that surround them, and keep them safe. You can't blame yourself for what
    happened. It's only natural to question what you've done (and what you
    could have done) after something like this happens. It's hard to let go of
    that parental responsibility but rest assured, the blame is not yours. It's
    not even with the family whose house it was. God Bless and Keep you.
  8. Petem

    Petem Guest

    My sincerest condolences,Joe

    Don't blame yourself,Only God decide when he recall one of us..
    You need to be strong in those hard days,the rest of your family need you
    My prayer's will be for you and your family..
  9. Norm Mugford

    Norm Mugford Guest

    Our prayers go out to you and your family Joe.....
    Be strong.

    Norm Mugford

    I choose Polesoft Lockspam to fight spam, and you?
  10. Don

    Don Guest

    I will pray for you and your family.
  11. JoeRaisin

    JoeRaisin Guest

  12. I guess I just want everyone to
    You must be very proud to have raised a son who touched so many people in such a good way, Joe.

  13. J Barnes

    J Barnes Guest

    I am sorry to hear this, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

    James B
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